Mindful Monday - Why is it So Hard To Say No?

About This Talk

Most of us are people pleasers, Chris says, which is why saying no feels so hard. He explains that a no is not a rejection of the other person, and he asks listeners to treat it as the start of an honest, sometimes vulnerable conversation about why a request makes them uncomfortable.

Key Ideas

• A no is not a rejection; sometimes a request simply doesn’t make sense for either person.
• A no often means you don’t believe in what’s asked or doubt you can deliver it to the other person’s satisfaction.
• Explaining your discomfort takes some vulnerability, but the dialogue can lead you both to a solution neither had thought of.

“A no really equals discomfort.”